2017. november 6., hétfő

Sharing ideas


I have realised that we hesitate to speak during conference calls. We are teachers and we are used to speaking and dancing in front of our students but when we become students, suddenly we turn to silence.


…..silence…..


I decided to take a look behind 'the silence'. I observed my experiences and feelings in order to understand why I become so shy. 


When I read Adesola’s blog, I became very excited about the topic: ’The role of women in acting’. I could prepare myself and I combined that with the topic which I was supposed to speak on before, choreography contra technique in teaching.


At the beginning of the conversation I felt myself prepared but a bit frustrated because of my speech. I am not good at public speaking even in my native language but speaking in English can make expressing myself more difficult.


…silence…


I felt so embarrassed during the silence. It was so frustrating, for example, like being in front of the judge during an examination. I felt that every second made me feel worse and worse….


….silence….


I felt that I had to do something even if I could not react to the topic, that was before me. I started to speak about my topic and after a while I felt myself feeling better and better. It freed me and made me feel safe and confident which I did not feel before. Every sentence that I said was like a sequence of movements in a dance. I could not stop, because it was so good. I opened up and the reactions from the others made this feeling stronger. I have realised that everybody became more confortable in the conversation and this was the break-through in the chat, for all of us. 


I think that the hindering factor is that when we are unsure about what is going to happen, we position ourselves like a student who is entering a new class and takes a place in the last row. According to Magda Kay the writer of the article: 12 ways to build confidence, "the reason for it is that we don’t want attention on us". (Kay, 2014) This hidden position can give the feeling that ’I am in safety’ but this is just an illusion, an insecure reaction, it is obvious we can not hide ourself. We should look for positive feelings and be confident instead of creating the illusion of being safe.

A challanging situation can positively affect us, if we give ourselves small goals. Magda Kay also explained that small goals give the feeling of success and this provides self-confidence for us. I have to mention that this also can create an enjoyable athmosphere for everybody, even if we do not know each other. 


I think that it is a good experience to discover ourselves and to get to know each other. We are in the same learning process and sharing ideas can help us to improve, and listening to other people may provide us with the ability to understand our students better.



Kay, M. (2014). Psyhology for Marketers. Retrieved november 6, 2017, from 12 ways to build self-confidence: http://psychologyformarketers.com/12-ways-to-build-self-confidence/